Bros v. Friends, Loggins, Messina, Deal, Beatles, Trauma
Gotta put trauma in there, being the show we are
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Gabe Mollica on the podcast this week, talking friendship, anxiety, trauma, depresh, and more
Yeah, we’re the kind of show that will have a comedian on but also the kind of show that will make that comedian talk about the bleakest shit that ever happened to him. Gabe Mollica was 30 when he realized he didn’t really have friends, only bros that he would order food and watch movies with. It didn’t go deep.
That was probably because the last relationship with a real, close friend that he had ended pretty badly. Gabe and Tim met in college and hit it off big time. They soon lived together, worked summer jobs together, Tim even introduced Gabe to Kate, whom he then started dating. Eventually, Gabe and Kate broke things off, much to Gabe’s heartbreak and then Tim started dating Kate. This news was passed to Gabe rather bluntly and that friendship was over. In the aftermath, Gabe sunk into depression and, as I kind of loosely assess in the interview, an anxiety disorder.
It’s interesting to me that there’s a template for romantic love. Boy meets girl, boy loses girl, etc. But for the kind of love between friends, especially male friends, there is no template. I think it’s because our society doesn’t think of men as having friends, only bros. Guys will gather or meet for social occasions but there needs to be something more than each other being offered - a movie, a ballgame, a concert - where the guys can face away from each other while still loosely interacting.
I think about this with how my wife will go meet up with a friend and the main attraction will be each other. If I’m meeting with a friend or multiple friends, there will be a distraction from each other built into the occasion.
People on Maui suffer mental health problems long after the fires
This according to NBC News and according to anyone who knows anything about trauma. Still bears mentioning.
Residents say they are haunted by a pervasive anguish. Many have trouble eating, sleeping or getting out of bed, and experience nightmares or flashbacks triggered by noises like the sound of a fire engine or a gust of strong wind. They describe a profound sadness, or heaviness — what Native Hawaiians call “kaumaha.”
The official reopening of West Maui to tourists this month comes amid what local health care professionals and residents describe as an unprecedented mental health crisis as residents spiral into despair and crushing grief, straining an overburdened behavioral health system.
A song about Lahaina from happier times, with Kenny Loggins doing a kind of accent:
Ozempic being prescribed for weight gain brought about by antidepressants and antipsychotics
Seems to be mostly in cases where the weight gain has been pronounced enough to have harmful health effects.
These drugs have transformed how doctors treat diabetes and obesity. Now, some psychiatrists are turning to the drugs to counteract the weight gain that often comes with nearly all antipsychotics and some drugs used to treat depression and anxiety. The New York Times heard from 13 leading mental health facilities and psychiatric departments at major health systems in the United States. Six said they were already recommending or prescribing drugs like Ozempic to their patients. Seven said they were not ready to do so, citing concerns about safety and side effects and expressing a belief that prescribing weight-loss drugs was beyond their purview.
Ozempic uses “It’s Magic” as their jingle, rewriting it to say “Ozempic”. I always thought they should alter this song and use it instead:
How the new Beatles song - feels weird to say that - came together
This very short documentary is a lovely way to spend 12 minutes of your day:
On Sleeping With Celebrities: Aparna Nancherla
Attentive Depresh Mode listeners will recall Aparna from a few weeks ago talking about, among other things, impostor syndrome
Now she’s talking to me again! This time about hipster coffee shops.
Ordinarily, you wouldn’t want to visit a whole bunch of hipster coffee shops across the U.S. before bedtime. It would be time-consuming and expensive plus all that coffee would make you all jittery. But if you’re being softly guided through these places by the gentle voice of the hilarious Aparna Nancherla, it makes for a perfect bedtime journey. Aparna has a new book, Unreliable Narrator: Me, Myself, and Impostor Syndrome. And she really knows her hipster coffee joints.
"Ozempic...ozempic...ozempic....A weight, weight loss"